Waiting for the right one

While Waiting For The Right One

While waiting for The Right One, learn to love yourself completely. After all, self-love is not selfish. 

Loving yourself completely means knowing your worth.

You should be the one to value yourself first before you expect others to see your worth. When you know your worth, you will never settle for less. You will never be satisfied with second best. 

Loving yourself completely means giving your 100% — or even more. It means loving every bit of you, including your flaws.

If you only half-love yourself, you will be satisfied with any love that’s just a little bit more than half. If you only love yourself 50%, and someone comes along and love you 60%, that 10% difference may feel too big and tempting. And yet, it’s not full.

When you know your worth, you will never settle for less. You will never be satisfied with second best.

But if you love yourself completely — if you love yourself 100% or more — the one who is brave enough to try and win your heart should really do better in loving you. That person should match your 100%, or even aim to go higher to make you feel special. Anything less will never do, because you already know your own worth and you know what you deserve. Otherwise, you will fall for anything and just accept whatever that is handed to you. 

While waiting for The Right One, let go of your past

Perhaps you already experienced being in a relationship with someone who did not love you completely. Now is the perfect time to totally let go of that experience. Let go of the past, but make sure to keep the lessons.

Perhaps during those times, you have not yet learned to love yourself fully, and that’s all right. Each experience teaches us a lesson. 

Until you learn to completely let go, you will never be ready to find The Right One.

Thank those experiences no matter how difficult and painful they may have been, because they will turn you into a better version of you.

Stop feeling bitter, angry, sad, or regretful about a past relationship that didn’t work. Until you learn to completely let go, you will never be ready to find The Right One.

While waiting for The Right One, learn to be truly happy being alone.

It’s not true that when you’re alone, you are lonely. If you can’t learn to be happy being alone — if you can’t enjoy your own company — then you will never be truly happy with anyone else. 

Learning to enjoy your own company builds your self-worth and self-esteem. When you are happy being alone, you will never feel insecure when you are already in a relationship. You will never be too attached with your significant other that you won’t feel lonely or insignificant if you are not together. You will not feel the need to be codependent with your partner.

“Until you get comfortable being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or out of loneliness.”

Mandy Hale

You will not let yourself settle for less than what you deserve because you are no longer afraid to be left alone… because you know that being alone does not make you feel any lonely at all.

When you’re happy being alone, you will also be happy being with The Right One. When you enjoy your own company, it means The Right One should also find you fun to be with. If not, then he or she is not really The Right One.

While waiting for The Right One, build your other relationships.

Do you have a strong relationship with your family? With your friends?

Before you seek a new and more intimate relationship, make sure to keep your existing relationships healthy. Settle your personal conflicts if there are any, and as much as possible, be at peace with everyone in your life — both from your past and your present. 

Only when you find self-fulfillment will you be ready to commit yourself fully when The Right One comes.

Most of all, build a strong relationship with the Divine.

Develop your spiritual life. Stay strong in your faith and believe that God has prepared someone who is meant for you — someone who will love you even more than you wish for and whom you will love more than he/she wishes for. 

While waiting for The Right One, build yourself first and be The Right One.

Invest in yourself. Fulfill your childhood dreams. Find new dreams to chase. Learn something new. Work on yourself to improve certain areas of your life. Work hard and build your finances. Discover and know yourself deeper.

Keep yourself busy by building and improving yourself and don’t make waiting a bore. Only when you find self-fulfillment will you be ready to commit yourself fully when The Right One comes.

Don’t go wasting your time looking for or chasing The Right One. Instead, work on yourself and make yourself love-ready. Discover who you are. Find out what you want. Know what you deserve. 

Don’t wait for anyone to complete you. Complete yourself first.

When you feel complete, you turn yourself into “The Right One”. And only when you become The Right One yourself will the right love come.

9 comments

  1. Thank you for sharing this. This is an important message which highlights how we should enjoy our days when we are single and the fact that we should never settle for the less. We can never reach the right person if we settle for less by making excuses to ourselves or by fearing that we may not be being able to find a person who can meet our standards!

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